Your Decision, Your Power

Hola ladies,

How nice has this weekend been! Hubby and I got back from Egypt last week and we must’ve brought the weather back with us as it’s been nice for a UK October! 

Anywho, the whole raison d’être of this post is to share a reminder that I had this week as I wrestled (almost literally) with making a decision that I felt would have a big impact on my life, now and in the future.

HAVE YOU EVER STRUGGLED TO MAKE A BIG DECISION?

Of course you have, you’re human!

I won’t go into the details of exactly what I needed to work out, that’s a whole other blog post, which I’ll share with you soon but basically, I needed to make a decision around a transition.

A fairly big decision.

The problem was, I was so caught up with the potential consequences and questions around making ‘the wrong decision’, I ended up going round and round, spending far too much energy on figuring this thing for far too long, to where I reached the point where I knew I just couldn’t go on this way. It was stressing me the hell out!

THE THEORY, HMMM

Alright, so we all know that people go through many transitions and we make many decisions, some seemingly more important, or bigger than others.

It might be whether to buy a particular house, whether to accept a certain job offer, or whether to buy the Marley braiding hair in 1B or the 2 ‘cos it’s a close call, y’know. I can spend ages, trying to decide which colour looks best, especially as different brand colours look a bit different, argh!

The point is we can’t get through life without making decisions, it’s constant, yet we often end up so attached to the outcome and with it, the fear of ‘making a mistake’, or somehow getting it wrong, that we don’t do anything at all!

What we need to do is practice opening ourselves up to the learning and growth that are the inevitable benefits of decision-making.  This article by transitions counsellor, Sheryl Paul, explains this concept perfectly. 

HERE’S WHAT I DID

I had a word with myself. I remembered who I am and who I serve.

At the same time, my mum reminded me of this scripture. Bless the amazing mothers out there!

I realised that my situation wasn’t necessarily about the choice I made, it was more about me trusting in my faith and in myself, rather than holding onto the outcome.

I also believe that there is a plan for my life, a great plan, however, unless I take steps, nothing’s gonna happen! So, with this in mind, I put my faith into action and made a decision.

Equally, I believe that you are destined for greatness and that you are called for a purpose. 

Having made a decision, although I still didn’t know what the end result would be, I immediately felt peace. I felt as though a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. In that second, I recognised that decision-making is so powerful as we learn to let go out our fears and step out in faith.

Disclaimer - please don’t misunderstand me here. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t weigh up our options and exercise wisdom when making decisions, far from it. I’m saying don’t be held captive by your fears. Don’t procrastinate in making a decision because you’re worried, or because you’re afraid of making a mistake. This is fear-based thinking and it won’t serve you.

Exercise wisdom, seek guidance, trust in yourself. Feel the fear and do it anyway!

Blessings

x

Tamaan WilkinsonComment