Little Miss Perfect

Hey lady,

This is going to be a short one as right now, I really feel a need to encourage you when it comes to something that I feel very passionately about and is something that just needs to be said.

We will never be perfect.

You will never be perfect.

I will never be perfect.

It is not possible. Not only is it impossible but I believe that it’s an unhealthy ideal to aspire to. Striving to be the best version of yourself, I’m all for but trying to be perfect is something else.

Unconsciously, this quest for perfection says that we’re not good enough as we are, that we need to be fixed, that we, somehow, need to be ‘better.’

How wrong we are.

The loving, ambitious, working mother who is trying her hardest to be the best mother to her children, whilst meeting the demands of her career puts herself under immense pressure to be everything to everyone. The manager of a team who wants to do the best by her colleagues questions the decisions she makes and puts herself under immense pressure to ‘get it right.’ The woman who’s been made redundant and is afraid that her worth won’t be recognised by employers because she suffered bad luck puts herself under immense pressure to ‘be better’.

As human beings, we can never be perfect and it’s an extremely tiring hunt. Yes, we want to be the best people that we can be and for sure, we want to continue to grow and improve but please, let’s not get wrapped up in an unhealthy perception of ourselves.

We are enough.

You are enough.

I am enough.

There is a reason that you are the way you are, a reason why you think the way you do, a reason why you look the way you do and a reason that you feel the way you do. I tell you – it is good and it is for a purpose :)

And so I encourage you to let go of the pressure that you’ve heaped upon yourself, as you try to be someone or something that just isn’t serving you. (And you’ll know when it’s not serving you because when you dig deep and start to peel off the layers covering up the inner beliefs around this quest for perfection, you realise it’s based on a fear of something, e.g a fear of making a mistake, a fear of what others think, etc.)

I’ll wrap up with one of my favourite scriptures which reads ”

I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.” (Psalm 139:14)

Please be encouraged and I hope that this post touches those for whom it was intended, whoever you are.

The most love

x

Tamaan WilkinsonComment